The only thing that can be more devastating than a "No" is an "unknown" not having closure in relationship can make it difficult to move on, especially after you're invested your emotions, time and efforts.

When someone ghost you it many seems like they're not giving you a direct yes or no as to whether they want to continue on with your relationship. It feels like a "maybe", maybe they've moved on, maybe they'll come back, maybe something happened to them and you're unware.

A million questions run through your head this make it changing when deciding what to do next. While this all might feel very confusing.

I'm here to tell you that being ghosted is never a "maybe". Being ghosted is always a "no".

However, I understand that a "no" in this case should not feel like a rejection but rather it is a display of that persons unreadiness to be a strong partner for you .

If they would rather than away than be honest with you they've not the type of partner who will take responsibility for their actions. If they're okay with letting you wait for them without giving you a good reason. They're not the type of partner who will be considerate of your time and feeling. If they flake in your plans or make up lies and excuses, they're not the type of partner who is ready to commit to something serious.

Here's the thing, some people are good at starting something but they're not equipped to follow through.

You can't keep feeling in the blanks they left for you with answers from your own imagination. They are only so many excuses you can make for someone who is consistently absent. The more you make excuses for their mistake, the more likely they are to keep making them.

So, ask yourself "is it really worth protecting the at the expense of your own well-being?" No matter how much potential they've shown you in the beginning remember the potential isn't proof.

It isn't a promise! At best, it is a possibility based on what they've shown you so far. But for there to be a chance that you'll have a successful relationship together that potential has to be matched with actions.

Tasikmalaya, March 27 2021